You're Pregnant! Now What?

Nothing is quite as terrifying to a sexually-active teenage girl than getting pregnant. The instant response from most teens is, “My life is over!” Well, yes and no. Life as you had previously known it is over. Where your new life begins depends on what decisions you make during this critical time.

Know your options!

Abortion:

Abortion is a very touchy subject in society. Don’t worry about what the news or politicians say. No one knows you like you. Abortion is an option which appears to cause the least amount of upheaval in a teenager’s life. However, this notion is not entirely true. Having an abortion leaves a permanent mark on a woman both physically and mentally, no matter how much a woman believes she will not be affected. Abortion may seem like a good choice given your circumstances, but, as with all of the options listed here, know ALL of your choices.

Adoption:

Adoption is a very noble choice. A baby is the best gift a childless couple can ever receive. I know this because my husband is adopted as well as my cousin. However, adoption can also be very difficult emotionally as well as physically. Women who were dead set on adoption were unable to go through with it once the baby arrived. Guilt is also a big factor. However, when it comes to teen pregnancies, adoption is a very good option. It provides something of a second chance for the mother as well as the best chance for the baby. Again, only you know what is best given your situation. Weigh ALL of your options.

Keeping the Baby:

The last choice is to keep the baby. Like all of the other options, it has pros and cons. It drastically changes the lives of all parents, especially teen parents. A lot of planning and sacrifice goes into caring for a baby. On top of that, teen moms also have to consider how they will finish school and who will care for the baby while they are in school. Motherhood is a lifelong commitment. You have to make sure you are able to make that commitment. If you believe you are unable to commit to such a huge responsibility, you should consider the other two options.

No one can make this decision for you. No matter what anyone tells you, you are the one who must live with your decision. This critical choice will impact you for the rest of your life, no matter which choice you make. I recommend all pregnant teens to visit www.plannedparenthood.org. They provide unbiased facts about all of the paths you can take. Take your time and educate yourself.

What was your first reaction when you found out you were pregnant?